Can a Marriage Survive an Affair?

Part One: Why Extramarital Affairs are on the Rise

As a relationship coach, I often have couples who come to me because their marriages are falling apart after the discovery that one of the partners is having or has had an affair. Let’s blast the myth that only bad people or people in bad relationships have affairs. All kinds of people -- from all walks of life have affairs -- the rich, the poor, the famous, the infamous, and the everyday Joe and Josephine Shmoe commit adultery. Because of the clandestine nature of affairs, no one knows the exact percentages of people who have engaged in them. The first statistics began in the 1940’s and 1950’s with the Kinsey’s reports, and in those reports the findings were that by age 40, 50 percent of men and 26 percent of women had engaged in an extramarital affair. Affair estimates today range anywhere from 50 to 70 percent for both sexes. Let’s face it: the numbers are irrelevant, because we all know it happens a lot. Five Reasons Why Extramarital Affairs are on the Rise

1) The Women's Liberation Movement got women out of the house and into the workforce in record numbers, and this is a contributing factor in the rise in the number of affairs happening in the workplace.
2) The Sexual Revolution fueled by the advent of the birth control pill changed the mores of our modern world and those changes spilled onto all avenues of life, including marriage.
3) No fault divorce, and the slackening of the social stigma divorce carried with it, makes the prospect of getting caught seem a whole lot less catastrophic than in the past.
4) Technological Advances, such as: cell phones, social media, chat rooms, emails, text messaging, Internet dating sites, and Internet interactive porn sites have made the ease and availability of connecting and reconnecting with people an easy thing to do. 5) Television and movies with their glamorization of affairs, and of course, the everyday disclosure of public figures -- from presidents to princesses carrying on affairs, fuels our curiosity and makes us wonder, am I missing out on something? Stay tuned for Part II, when we will examine the Top Reasons Why People Stray. Cindi Sansone-Braff is a relationship coach, psychic/medium, and author of Grant Me a Higher Love: How to Go from the Relationship from Hell to One that's Heaven Sent by Scaling The Ladder of Love. Visit her web site at www.grantmeahigherlove.com. She gives free psychic and relationship advice on Thursday night, 7pm EST, www.blogtalkradio.com/higher-love.
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